Why are Nigerian men so mean and heartless


First time dating a Nigerian man I had a really bad experience dating a Nigerian man. He was rude, selfish, mean controlling, manipulative clever crazy narcissistic mentally emotionally physically abusive.

He was petty and a big liar he would never tell me the truth about him he kept his life and everything a big secret he always acted like he was hiding from something I was with him for 15 months and he still was a stranger to me we were in a long-distance relationship I live in Philadelphia he lives in Maryland.

He always uses to tell me he wanted me to be submissive he would say my ex-wife was submissive just because she was submissive doesn’t mean I’m gonna be submissive that not cool he was always throwing that up in my face he would beat me with a belt he always killed me I had to get away from him he was a very bad person he had a lot of issues with women.

He would talk to me like I was a piece of shit on his shoe.

He doesn’t respect the woman, he was a cheater.

I like African men but I don’t think I will date no more African men  Can someone tell me if this behavior is normal for Nigerian men he was Muslim and he was from the Yoruba tribe.

Answers ( 3 )


    Where did you meet him? Unfortunately, most women are attracted to really bad guys.
    I could help with your question but I need to know if you are still dating him?

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    I can relate thank God you didn’t marry him. I was married to one, he is exactly everything that you explain about your ex but 10 times worse. We have 2 kids together he is fighting for full custody like a crazy woman, he hates black people because he has a Dr title he talked bad about black with his racist friends. He is just a nightmare I wish I’ve never met him, to be honest with you. He came to pick up our children with 3 police cars like a retarted Drama King. This man is a pure narcissist. Stay away from some of them not all of them are like that but I did experience and I knew a lot of women who are dealing with the same issues even African women.


    I do not believe that Nigerian men are heartless. The identity of a man is specific as well as his character. It has nothing to do with culture, religion or tradition but majorly based on things like

    1. Temperament

    2. Family beliefs

    3. Social factors like relationships.

    It only depends on who you find yourself with and how both partners learn to live in the knowing that we are different and work out on how to make ourselves better. Whether in Nigeria or the Usa men and women are the same.

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